El lado negativo de una relación es, por supuesto, más fácilmente reconocible como disfuncional que el positivo. Y también es más fácil de reconocer la fuente de la negatividad en su pareja que en usted mismo. Puede manifestarse en muchas formas: posesividad, celos, control, retraimiento y resentimiento no manifestado, la necesidad de tener la razón, insensibilidad y enfrascamiento, reclamos emocionales y manipulación, la necesidad de discutir, criticar, juzgar, culpar o atacar, ira, revancha inconsciente por el dolor pasado infligido por un padre, rabia y violencia física. En el lado contrario, usted está "enamorado" de su pareja. Este es al principio un estado profundamente satisfactorio. Usted se siente intensamente vivo. Su existencia se ha vuelto repentinamente significativa porque alguien lo necesita, lo desea y lo hace sentir especial, y usted siente lo mismo por él o ella. Cuando están juntos, se sienten completos. El sentimiento puede volverse tan intenso que el resto del mundo se desvanece en la insignificancia.
The negative side of a relationship is, by all means, recognizable like more easily dysfunctional that the positive. And also it is easier to recognize the source of the negativity in his pair that in yourself. It can be pronounced in many forms: possessiveness, jealousy, control, retirement and resentment nonindicated, the emotional necessity to be right, insensibility and blindness in yourself, reclamations and manipulation, the necessity to discuss, to criticize, to judge, to blame or to attack, wrath, unconscious revenge by the past pain inflicted by a father, rage and physical violence. In the opposite side, you are " in love" of its pair. This it is at the outset a deeply satisfactory state. You feel intensely alive. Your existence has suddenly become significant because somebody needs you, wishes you and it makes you feel special, and you feel the same by him or she. When they are together, they feel complete. The feeling can become so intense that the rest of the world vanishes in the insignificance.
The negative side of a relationship is, by all means, recognizable like more easily dysfunctional that the positive. And also it is easier to recognize the source of the negativity in his pair that in yourself. It can be pronounced in many forms: possessiveness, jealousy, control, retirement and resentment nonindicated, the emotional necessity to be right, insensibility and blindness in yourself, reclamations and manipulation, the necessity to discuss, to criticize, to judge, to blame or to attack, wrath, unconscious revenge by the past pain inflicted by a father, rage and physical violence. In the opposite side, you are " in love" of its pair. This it is at the outset a deeply satisfactory state. You feel intensely alive. Your existence has suddenly become significant because somebody needs you, wishes you and it makes you feel special, and you feel the same by him or she. When they are together, they feel complete. The feeling can become so intense that the rest of the world vanishes in the insignificance.
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